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Truvy · 13/08/2005 15:05
My mil has never really liked me that much, she desperatley tried to sabotage our wedding day and things got worse from then on, I have always been polite and respectful towards her as she is my DH mother, I thought she would see me differently once our first son was born, but that was so wrong, she questioned if my DH was the real dad when DS was 3 days old infront of us all. After inviting her over numerous times to get to know my DS, and pulling my hair out behind closed doors!! I am expecting again. However, MIL had massive rant at me on phone as she thinks Im petty for being upset at fact there are no pics of me at all in her house. She was unaware DH was listening and told me how she hated me and never wanted anything to do with me again. I pointed out it meant she would miss out on her grandkids and she said she didnt care. I know she is a bit weird and am a little relieved at the thought of never seeing her again, but I cant help feeling that my kids will miss out on a grandparent (mine all died when i was little) and feel for my DH as shes his mum. Was it my fault? I dont really know what to think or do for the best!
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jamboure · 13/08/2005 15:26
well my husband has the MIL from hell I assure you that.
She has tried to have blokes come do him in, has had our windows smashed(before we had the kids), sent me a sympathy card on my wedding day, made fun out the fact that the wee girl he brought up thinking it was his daughter_wasn't his daughter sick cow thught it funny to rub his face in it.
She often asks who the father of my sons is
I would understand kinda if he was indeed a horrible person but the man does absolutly everything for me, and tbh if it were me in his position i wouldnt stick around
jamboure · 13/08/2005 15:26
oops we now have an inderdict against her and the thing that was my sister too to stop them coming near me and our sons.
LONG LONG STORY into that one
Truvy · 13/08/2005 15:29
well, when she said it, he spoke up and said that they're his kids aswell and she just said again that she didnt care. we had a big talk, it obviously caused friction before this as he stuck up for her alot, but once he heard this, and she owned up to alot of horrid things shes done to me, hes just not spoken to her. says its her loss, which i know it is but he only lost his dd a few years ago so he feels cut up inside. which is another reason i feel bad, my family are really close, my DM was with us when DS was born, so i cant see how she can be like this with her own flesh and blood?!
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Truvy · 13/08/2005 15:35
blimey jamboure, thats bad!! on my wedding day, she tampered with my cake, ruined it, and was ordering the staff at the hotel around as the only Mrs H. I wasnt welcome at DH grandad funeral as it was family only. I dont think i ever hated anyone before in my life! how ironic that the one person i do, gave birth to the one person i absolutely adore and love with all my heart!!
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wassy · 13/08/2005 16:28
just because people are related doesn't mean you have to put up with this kind of behaviour. Imagine she never changes which is highly unlikely how will your children benefit from having such a person in their lives? Also if you had friends who treated you so badly would you continue to be friends with them... no unless you are mental!
jamboure · 13/08/2005 19:34
my so called mother has NOTHING to do with our boys my choice.
I can't and won't allow for that to downgrade my husband in front of his sons, she walked past ds1 as she didn't even know who he was but then seen sil pushing the twins and clicked.
Sil was fab though and knows the script, no contact whatsover, if they attempt to call the police.
My boys don't know who she is, ds1 3.5 remembers the bad ladies fighting with mummy in asda.
I had just brought our twins home from hospital a few days previous( twins were born at 29 weeks, were in hospital 8) she threw herself on them shouting - no-one was keeping her away from her grandkids then her and the thing of a sister attacked me and dh!!!!!!
Obviously i retaliated a bit and did proceed in charging them
CeeTee · 26/08/2005 15:48
You did your best to have a cordial if not loving relationship with MIL....let it go....she may come around...If not, you do not need any more drama in your life.... If you are set on her having a relationship with the children, mabye your husband can act as mediator & talk to her for you....good luck
MeerkatsUnite · 26/08/2005 16:42
Toxic parents come in many forms.
I would suggest you read "Toxic Parents" written by Susan Forward as this goes into this subject in some depth.
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